By Danielle Summers
Experts will always say that one of the best ways to raise a child is to be a child yourself. It helps to understand what your child is going through at a particular time in his or her life. We all were kids at one point, but sadly we forget what it was like to be one. Agreed, times and customs have changed today, but that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Change is the only constant thing in life and the quicker we accept that, the happier we all will be.
Children look to you for guidance and help in their formative years and it is at this time, if you let them know that you are there for them, they will keep on asking you for advice. Many parents are plagued by the question if they are good parents or not and we say that the fact that you are reading this article and looking for good parenting tips makes you a good parent. Ahead of this we have a few tips/facts/hints/advice, whatever you choose to call it, for every eager parent to help them with their child.
Your Decisions Matter
What you do, what you decide and what you don’t do are all things that influence the life of your child. Remember that your decisions have effects that will be shown in your child’s as well as yours. If you want your child to learn responsibility, then you must learn to shoulder them first. If you don’t want your child to smoke, then you must quit, too. These are only basic actions, but they stand for a lot.
Get Involved in Your Child’s Life
This is a time consuming and energy burning exercise, but if you have a child, then not only do you owe it to them, but it is also your responsibility. You can start with small things, like having a meal together and asking about the child’s day. Be there for your child on important days, which even might mean sacrificing at your end, but you should be there for your child, both physically and emotionally.
Don’t Substitute Love
Children never get spoilt with excess love, it is the things you use to substitute it with that ends up spoiling your children. Genuine expressions of love and warmth can never be enough. It is a problem when you start giving gifts, cars, credit cards, leniency, lowered expectations and expensive holidays instead of saying, “I Love You”, or even simply showing you care.
Establish a Code of Conduct of a Set of Rules
We do not mean you have to start a military facility, but you can have a certain list of dos and don’ts that have to be followed by the child. You need to instill this into them from a young age when they are ready to soak up all the knowledge so they can behave correctly, even when you are not around. This is also important for the safety of your child as it is for your peace of mind.
Parent as per the Child
This may sound confusing, but it isn’t. It simply means that is important that you adapt your parenting style to complement your child at his or her requirements. Make sure you are in pace with your child’s growth and development. Remember, although you don’t want your child to grow to soon, that is all they can think of. It is the driving force behind all those “why” questions or the arguments that have suddenly started in your household. It is what motivates your three year old to want to be potty trained or makes your teenager curious about the other sex. So be patient and learn to pace yourself accordingly to them. Change your parenting style to mould according to your child and remember, the rules can change as your child changes.
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Danielle Summers works as a counsellor specialising in helping the patients of life threatening diseases such as cancer. She also likes to talk about her work through her articles over the internet.
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